A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Prov 31:10
The other day I was perusing the children’s picture book section of our local library, searching for fun books to read with my kids. A woman walked by on the other side of the shelf near me, and I suddenly heard her snicker to herself.
She was obviously amused by something she saw, and turned towards me to reveal a book she was laughing at–How to get Married by Me, the Bride. I later learned it was a book by the Christian children’s author Sally Lloyd-Jones. She definitely did not seem to agree with the title.
“I can’t believe there’s a book about marriage for kids!” she went on,
“My girls talk about weddings and ask if having babies hurts…” She apparently wanted to stand on her feminist soapbox, so I just stood there and listened.
“I tell them, getting married, that’s old-fashioned, that’s what people had to do in the old days. Nowadays, you don’t have to get married or have babies–you can do whatever you want!”
And with that, she disappeared down the end of the hallway to the self-check-out.
I stood there for a moment, a bit stunned at her humorous openness to a complete stranger about her opinions on marriage and motherhood. But then I felt sorry for her. I wondered if she had ever been married, and the pain she may have experienced in her own broken relationships. I thought of her girls, and the messages they are hearing.
I took a peek at the book she snuffed her nose at, and found it to be a fun, light-hearted book for girls who like to play “wedding”. It features the cute, witty advice on “how to get married” from the perspective of a young child. What’s so wrong with that? I thought to myself. What is wrong with young girls desiring to one day be married?
The woman spoke of marriage as if it were an old, out-dated outfit–like marriage somehow went out of style along with go-go boots and tie-dyed shirts. Unfortunately, her response to marriage and motherhood is a crystal clear reflection of what our culture believes.
Her comments made me wonder, “Am I a woman of vogue or a woman of virtue?
The term vogue is defined as: popular acceptation or favor; a period of popularity; one that is in fashion at a particular time. Synonyms include fashion, trend, fad, craze, and rage. In many ways, our culture is very vogue in its values and beliefs. Like a shifting river, the waters of moral relativity are always changing. Whatever the popular music, magazines, movies, and media tell us are “in” become new cultural trends–but do these fads line up with the Word and will of God?
Then there’s the word virtue. The English language defines virtue as
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. Proverbs 31:10 (NKJV)
Instead of the weak, wimpy, and unfavorable view our culture has of a woman of virtue, God’s word gives a much greater picture. A virtuous woman is a woman of strength. She has a voice, and has great value in the eyes of God.
A married woman is not a less-than woman with no power or influence, but is a mighty warrior on behalf of her family. She gathers her strength from the cloak of her Creator, and calls on the name of the Lord as her fortress. A woman of virtue is a woman of victory.[bctt tweet=”A woman of virtue is a woman of victory.” username=”christinbaker12″]
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. Proverbs 31:25
If we take a closer look and the woman described in Proverbs 31, we’ll see that she is clothed with…
Virtue (vs. 10)
Goodness (vs. 12)
Diligence (vs. 13)
Provision (vs 15)
Discretion (vs. 16)
Capability (vs. 18)
Skill (vs. 19)
Honor and respect (vs. 23)
Compassion (vs. 20)
Strength and dignity (vs. 25)
Wisdom (vs. 26)
Vigilance and energy (vs. 27)
Contrary to the popular belief of our culture, a woman of virtue is a powerful woman of strength and honor. She doesn’t have to prove herself to the world, but finds her true identity in the eyes of her Savior. So whether you are married or single, God calls us all to be women of virtue.
Christ has clothed us in His brilliant garments of righteousness and dignity. Of valor, value, and victory. So put on your garments of splendor today, and stand firm as a woman of the Word. A woman of wisdom. A woman of victorious virtue!
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30